Conversation With Kieya & Kev 88.5 FM

• Background and Origins: The speakers, Dr. Amelia Cole and Pastor Danny Cole, share their personal story, recounting how they met while working at the Internal Revenue Service in 1985. They emphasize the importance of intentional pursuit, noting that it took six months for them to begin dating, eventually marrying in 1986.
• Defining Healthy Pursuit: The speakers clarify that healthy pursuit involves respect, clear communication, and honoring boundaries rather than "stalking" or controlling behavior. They advise against being "easy" or "nasty" in relationships, suggesting instead that individuals should preserve their own value while remaining open to being pursued.
• The Transition to Roommates: The couple identifies common signs that a marriage is slipping into a "roommate phase," which includes poor communication and failing to create a safe space for vulnerability. They highlight communication, finances, and intimacy as the primary areas where couples often struggle.
• Overcoming Challenges: Pastor Danny and Dr. Amelia reflect on a difficult four-year period in their own marriage early on, which they attribute to negative external influences and a lack of understanding regarding their individual purposes. They emphasize the importance of finding a shared spiritual foundation and learning how to lead and follow effectively, rather than struggling for control.
• The Reality of Partnership: The couple debunks the "50/50" marriage myth, noting that healthy partnerships require one person to be the "stronger one" when the other is having a bad day. They conclude by discussing the power of words, acknowledging that women possess a spirit of influence that should be used to build up their partners rather than manipulate or nag.

  Order Danny and Amelia's Book, The Passion Framework or Pursuit of Passion, and begin your journey of deeper love and lasting passion at https://www.dannyamelia.org/.